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Self Love Means Trusting You To Not Make Excuses When Living Life!
“Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure.” ~Don Wilder and Bill Rechin
Excuses are the tools of incompetence, used to build monuments of nothingness, and those who specialize in them seldom accomplish anything. They lack a true sense of self love.
Excuses are the signal for negative thoughts to walk through an unlocked door in your true self. The inner child provides excuses because she does not want to be shut out or not listened to. She wants to be the center of your attention. She doesn’t want you to listen to your inner being – the source of self love.
Positive thinking and strong self-love put your inner child in the corner where she belongs until she can behave.
When making excuses you pass on the responsibility for your actions. Once you do not take on the responsibility and embrace your actions and words then you are stuck in the past not in the future. Without being in the present you will not be able to move forward.
An excuse disguises itself as a positive thought when actuality it is negative in origin. An excuse comes easily to us and it takes practice and determination to own up to your words and actions. Accept what you have done or said and realize that you can only make a decision based on the tools you have been given. So forgiveness should be your first line of attack when deciding to use an excuse for your behavior. Forgiving yourself will hold you firmly in the present.
When you feel an excuse coming on – stop. Kindly redirect your inner child back into her corner where she belongs; think about why you are making this excuse, and ask yourself the following questions:
What are you trying to accomplish from making the excuse?
What benefits does this excuse have?
As with any cancer, excuses can spread and grab hold of your psyche if you let them. So try very hard to catch yourself as your brain uses this tactic of making excuse to keep the negative lounging around. The best chemo for excuses is to practice positive thinking on daily basis and stay true to your self love by embracing and celebrating all the things you do – even when it would be easier not to admit your actions or words. Accept what you have done, own it and celebrate it as part of the perfectly authentic lovable you.
What’s you excuse not to?
Excuses are the tools with which persons with no purpose in view build for themselves great monuments of nothing. ~Steven Grayhm
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