Moximized Mondays

Welcome Everyone! – This is your way to Empowerment.

Just Ask Tamara…An Empowerment Advice Column for the Fearless!



“Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.” – Dr. Seuss

Start your week off with answers to those niggling questions that pop into your mind during your exciting travel along your journey. Every Monday I will post

answers to questions that have been sent to me on a range of topics. Your empowerment begins with the courage to “ask.” No question is too small or too large and if I can’t answer it I will try to find the source for you to turn to for further investigating.


Get started today and ask what you have desired to know the answers to.  Create your own empowerment program by following the direction you find in the power to ask hat you want. Go to and send me your question.


If you wish me to answer it in confidentiality only,  just let me know you when you state your question and you will not be published – I gladly honor your privacy.



Each Monday check out in the Moxie Blog Category “Moximized Mondays – Q & A” and see what others have asked and the answers.


“Dreams are today’s answers to tomorrow’s questions.” – Edgar Cayce


Please feel free to contribute to the conversations of each inquiry. Empowerment is habit forming and contagious. You might be able to shed insight from your own life’s path. This is meant to be a learning tool and sharing is totally voluntary but can be essential to helping others get through their challenges. BUT Please be respectful off others and only offer comments and input that would be constructive in every way.


Enjoy this new experience of empowerment, and help make everybody’s Monday be as MOXIMIZED as possible – it’s just a fabulous way to start the week!


“Sometimes questions are more important than answers.” – Nancy Willard


Let ME be your Voice of Empowerment!

33 Responses to “Moximized Mondays”

  • Swamitra:

    I wanna know, If we fail to get what we want from life, what to do to get happiness ?

    Actually I am a student. I really enjoying study but things like Facebook and games are making me sick. I cant concentrate on my studies and goal. I am afraid if i will not be able to get success in my life. That would me my fault. I wanna control my hobbies and mind. I don’t bath regularly. I eat late. I sleep late. I never think about my clothing. I don’t know how i look. I don’t have girlfriends , that’s another things which makes me feel shame. I think I am not attractive. I also wanna improve my communication skills.Please tell me what to do ???????????

    • First of all Swamitra, you are suffering from burn out. You have loved the light your candle gives off so much that you decided to increase its glow by lighting the other end. You have cone to the middle of your candle with no more wick to burn.

      So time to create boundaries – healthy one you can live by. Make a list of the things that don’t bring you happiness right now, like Facebook and games. Evaluate how much time you spend at these things and create a schedule for yourself and stick to it. A lot a small amount of time to things you must do even if you do not enjoy them and then walk away not giving them any more thought or time; if you can leave them all together for a while that would be perfect. This will give your soul’s energy time to recharge and reignite with positive enthusiasm. No one says you have to be on Facebook – you are the master of your life and you set the rules for playing it.

      Happiness begins with you. Now look at the things in your life that you do love and want to be good at. Put those items into your schedule and refocus your outlook to anticipating their time in your day as fun and joyous times for you. Your mid is designed by you. Your thoughts decide your mood and emotions. So concentrate on the good things in your day and leave the negative where it belongs – in the garbage.

      You are your best friend. You can’t take a holiday from you and when times get rough you can always count on you to be there. So what would you do for your best friend? You would look after her and make her feel good. So nurture yourself. Treat yourself as you would a best friend. Love yourself more than anything in the world. Don’t just take a bath but create a bathing experience fit for a princess. Light candles, play relaxing music and read a juicy book. Think pleasant thoughts and luxuriate in your being. Then when you get out look in the mirror and thank each part of your body for being as beautiful as it is and for all it has done for you so that you survive each day. This will not be easy at first but with practice you will get more familiar and comfortable with your body and learn to love and appreciate it. You will feel attractive and then you will attract others around you to your attractiveness.

      You are on your way to improving your communication skills, Swamitra by asking your valuable questions here in this column, and sharing your authenticity. Your voice will improve as you learn to love you exactly as you are meant to be. Being grateful everyday for everything that comes your way both the fabulous and the negative will help your volume in your voice increase immeasurably.

  • Agnes Bedford:

    In a relationship, how much forgiving should I be prepared to do? It seems I’m doing a lot of it with my boyfriend lately and am starting to feel taken for granted…help!

    • Agnes, the most important part of any relationship you are in – personal or professional – is to set firm boundaries for yourself. Decide what works for you in the partnership and what doesn’t. Decide what doesn’t put a smile on your face and warmth in your heart. Make your boundaries clear, straightforward and don’t stray from them. Once those boundaries are realized by you then you can decide how much forgiving you wish to do. If your partner doesn’t respect you and what you stand for then he isn’t for you. That is tough love but abusing your rights is about control. No one should have control over you but YOU. Then next time he does something that goes against your grain, say NO that is not alright and I don’t want it done to me again. If he doesn’t like it too bad. You are sticking up for yourself and you deserve better – just believe in yourself. You attracted this person in your life for a reason – not to be controlled but to learn a lesson. The lesson here is that you need to create firm boundaries for yourself and not submit to control by another anymore. So learn the lesson, forgive yourself and love you more than anyone else can. You will attract a partner that respects you because you respect “you” first and foremost.
      So take a moment, breathe deep 3X and write down all the things you want in your relationship. All the qualities you want in a partner. Then stick to your desires. If your current partner doesn’t fit into what you have written and you see that you have to forgive him all the time because he doesn’t conform to the boundaries you have set for yourself, then move on. Bless him and wish him well for he is only as good a partner as the tools he was given to grow up with. He is perfect in his own right but just not perfect for you. When you clear out the clutter you make room for something new and wonderful.
      Agnes, you deserve to have a clutter free world.
      Happy Holidays!

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