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Your Self-Love Level Is Controlled By You

Your Self-Love Journey -The Only Change Controlled by You is Within Yourself

self-loveA deep sense of nurturing self-love is controlled by you – “You can’t change what life deals you BUT you can change how you deal with life!” I have lived by this saying my whole life. Although it is not always easy to follow, I make a conscious effort to watch my reactions to things I come across in my journey. You cannot change anything other than changes within yourself. You cannot control others actions, decisions and behaviors. But you can change your reactions to others – a healthy sense of self-love can dictate those reactions. Your reactions to criticism, disappointment, others moods…. are decided by your choices. Your choices are influenced by what brings your life, happiness, joy, balance and love – cornerstones to self-love.

Choice is still within our power. We might think others have taken command of it but they never have. We are the captains of our choice ship and we steer the way in and out of situations by masterfully making choices the best we know how with the tools we have in our grasp to use. All choices are the correct one. Some just don’t turn out the way we hope but there are lessons in all decisions. Learn these lessons for they are valuable.  Place your choices where they belong – in the past and discover the tools you need to make the decisions you want and achieve the outcomes you desire.

Then next time a situation occurs that is not quite as wonderful as you were hoping, stop, breathe deep 3 times, stay focused in the present, put your prejudices aside and then react. You will find that your how you deal with life becomes easier and easier until the peace you find within will be the peace to radiate to others no matter what the situation is you find yourself in.

 

 

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To Be Enlightened is To Be “In Light” With Self-Love

 When you are enlightened you have discovered and become immersed in self-love – you are “In Light”.

 

You have come out of the darkness and discovered your brilliance in the light of love. Your life is all about self-love. Love is the heart of everything that is important to you. Love is the highest vibrational place you can be in the universe. This self-love that penetrates you is unconditional and the love you radiate back is also unconditional – there in lies your brilliance.

 

The word “enlighten” is defined as to give intellectual or spiritual light to.In the wonderful book, “A Return To Love”, Marianne Williamson describes her powerful journey through finding her purpose in life with the commitment of studying “A Course In Miracles” (written by Dr. Helen Schucman.)  Marianne does a wonderful job of explaining and outlining the importance of understanding that all there is in life is love – nothing else is a reality.

 

Practicing Heart Space Meditation is a wonderful way to increase your brilliance. Spend 5 minutes a day connecting with your heart space, filling it with the golden light of unconditional self-love. As you imagine filling your heart space with the ever-flowing golden light, feel it spilling out over and into the space that surrounds you. Direct this love towards those you love and adore. Then take it one step further and send this bountiful energy to those that have wronged you. Don’t worry, you have more than enough self-love to spread around. This world can use all the love that is available.

 

Worries, guilt and fear have no place in your vibrational plain. You can greet these little monsters at the door; invite them to share their lessons and then move on to the next room. By setting your intention to live your life in self-love, the strength of that energy pushes those demons to the back of your psyche enabling you to get on with living the perfectly authentic life you were meant to be living.

 

So set yourself free to live your life enlightened with self-love and your focus firmly in the direction of love for others around you.

 

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The Self-Love Act of Writng a Will

Share Your Self-Love By Writing Down Your Dreams and Desires For Your Loved Ones In A Will.

self-loveOne of the greatest gifts you can give yourself in the honor of self–love is writing your will. A gift you say? Even thinking about the contents of a will upsets people to the point that they just don’t bother. Did you know that stats show nearly 65% of adults don’t have a will? It’s a very hard stat to evaluate since it includes everyone over the age of majority and let’s face it young adults think they will live forever and don’t even consider a will till they marry and have children – if even then. It is important to write your will so that there is an orderly transfer of property and belongings from you, the testator, to your loved ones, the beneficiaries. This self-love act transfers your dreams and accomplishments on so others may benefit from your journey or incorporate it into their own life journeys.

I had to do this very act the other day – rewrite my will. It is not pleasant talking about “me” as if you no longer exist but it is imperative to contemplate and design. I believe the process to be “self-love” – able. I owe it to me and to my loved ones to be able to say now what I cannot say once I have left this physical world. This is the self-love gift I give to myself and to my loved ones. I made sure that all my assets and debts are organized in a manner that my family members do not have to be concerned with the problems of an unorganized estate.

There are intestacy laws for those that do not make a will but why leave your assets in the hands of a stranger? Why not allocate where and how everything you have acquired over your lifetime will go while you still have the opportunity to do so? You have worked so hard to have beautiful things for your family but they might not be available for them once you have passed. Why would you do that to you – who worked so hard to preserve your sacred self-love – or to your loved ones who you have made sure to provide for?

Self-love is about doing what is right for you at all times and doing good things for you that make you happy; it is about nurturing your soul and making sure that you put ‘you” first. It is about you ensuring your authenticity at all costs. Self –love is about being kind to yourself first and foremost. What better way to ensure that than by writing down all your wishes and desires to be accomplished after you have passed?

The death of a family member is something people don’t like to foresee or discuss. However, since death is inevitable, taking practical steps like making a will, secures the future of your precious family members.

Self-love is like a mirror, which reflects the love you have for yourself onto others. That love will be as deep for them as the love you have gathered within you.

 

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Independence Empowers Self-Love

Discovering Your Independence in Self-Love and Standing in your Power

self-loveConsidering that July signifies two historical events in two great nations – Independence Day July 4th USA and Canada Day – its 144th Birthday, July 1, Independence and standing in your power as the person you are meant to be seems like a good topic for a post this month. Embracing and celebrating both your independence and standing up for who you were born to be is just as important as the fireworks displayed within our two great nations.

 

An important way to assert your independence and hold you steadfast in your self-love power is to strengthen the way you assert yourself with others. Being full of self-love helps you to stand up for yourself – be assertive with communicating your wishes and desires. To be assertive isn’t to say you are mean, demanding or rude. I am not encouraging you to become pushy or annoying. It just means that you say the truth and get things done. You know what you want and how to get it in a manner that is respected be everyone who associates with you.

 

What is self-love assertive behavior?

Assertive behavior is:
* Standing up for one’s rights no matter what the circumstance.
* Correcting the situation when one’s rights are being violated.
* Seeking respect and understanding for one’s feelings about a particular situation or circumstance.
* Interacting in a mature manner with those found to be offensive, defensive, aggressive, hostile, blaming, attacking or otherwise unreceptive.
* Direct, upfront–not defensive or manipulative–behavior. Those using assertive behavior confront problems, disagreement, or personal discomforts head-on, and their intent is unmistakable to others.
* Verbal “I” statements, where individuals tell others how they feel about a situation, circumstance or the behavior of others.
* Being able to protect one’s rights while protecting and respecting the rights of others. Don’t be pushy and feel you are the only one with rights that matter.
* Risk-taking behavior that is not ruled by fear of rejection or disapproval, but is directed by the rational belief that “I deserve to stand up for my rights.”
* Self-affirmation of personal worth, respect and rights.
* Discover a healthy style in which to conduct interpersonal relationships.
* Finding a “win-win” solution in handling problems between two individuals:

 

For example:
The “you win and I lose” solution is a passive solution where one individual gives up his rights to another.

The “you lose and I win” solution is an aggressive solution where one individual ignores the rights of another in order to get his way.

The “you lose and I lose” solution is a total passive solution where both individuals give up their rights. A healthy resolution is impossible.

The “you win and I win” solution is an assertive solution where the rights of both parties are recognized, respected and utilized in reaching a healthy compromise.

 

Six Steps to Attaining Strong Positive Self-Assertion Through Self-Love

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1. Work on your appearance. – How you look tells a lot about you. If you look like you’re put together and ready to take on the day, people will know what to expect from you

 

2. Have a confident demeanor. You give away a lot before you even open your mouth. Try not to be easy to read, even if you are nervous or uncertain.

 

3. Use a clear, calm voice. You don’t need to be loud or condescending, but you do need to make yourself heard. Being concise helps you get the point across in a confident manner.

 

4. Know what you want. Whether you’re speaking to a bank teller or a waiter, their job is to serve you and you’ll make their job about ten times easier if you know what you want. It is much easier for anyone to do what you ask of him or her if you can tell him or her clearly what it is you want.

 

5. Know when to hold ‘em; know when to fold ‘em. Like anything else in life, being assertive is about balance. It’s important to get what you deserve in life, but it’s just as important to understand what it is that you deserve in the first place! Choose your battle wisely. Don’t waste precious energy absorbed in needless conflict.

 

6. Don’t misdirect your frustration. Generally when we lash out at someone it is our frustration at our own behavior we are pinning on another.

 

This is a very simplistic overview to becoming more self-assertive but if you follow these self-love steps one small increment at a time, your self-assertive manner will increase and strengthen. This will make a difference in how you see and hear yourself as well as how others receive you.

 

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Self-Love Solution For Socializing In Awkward Situations

Moximized Mondays Self-Love Topic:

 

How can I makes socializing in awkward circumstances easier. ~ Michelle

 

I have to attend my office Bar B Q,  and I don’t like anyone I work with on a social level. There is too much drama in our office. I don’t even want to go to the party. If I don’t attend, I worry it would reflect poorly on me as a team member of our organization, so how do I attend, avoid conflict and have fun also? – Michelle

 

 

self-loveFirst of all, Sarah, put your self-love first and consider the following questions. Who are you attending this party for? You or your office? Is this an event that would bring you joy and love to your heart? What would be the worst thing to happen to you for not attending? Death?

 

Reflect on these self-love questions for a moment or two after taking 3 very long deep breaths. Now no matter what your answers are, let’s ponder on a few things. You don’t have to like the people you work with but you can look at each one and find the self-love light that shines from within them. Everyone has a gift to give and each gift has the power to illuminate another person. So look for the light and be the mirror that reflects the magic. You might see your co-workers in a different way and at least be able to enjoy their luminosity for one evening. Remember, that whomever you engage with, there lies a purpose, and their place in our journey is important for our development. So if you decide to attend the festivities, go forth with an open mind and gather all the self-love light you can so you can glow with the authenticity you were born with.

 

I want to also share with you, Michelle, the fact that any preoccupation with a troublesome person or situation prevents us from responding to all the positives that can come out of the particular moment. Don’t get stuck in the muck of past of an old hurt, that stifles your self-love and extinguishes your existence. Go with the flow and forgive yourself and others for any offenses that have affected you. Forgiveness is a blossoming gift for your self-love as well as the boost to the self love in others.

 

Enjoy every moment of every day with every person you stand next to during the Bar B Q and celebrate in the gifts you receive, they will be so much more than you can imagine.

 

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Self Love Rules For CraftingYour Creativity – Part Two

Channeling Your Creativity Highway  – building  greater sense of self love cont’d…

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Last week, I talked about he ways in which you can encourage the artist in you to create. Here are the final 5 rules to help you nourish you self love and fuel your creativity.

Let all judgment and others opinions roll off your back and discover the inner artist in you today. Stand in your power and protect your self love.

Go back and review rules 1 to 5 here and please feel free to share with me what creations you have succeeded in accomplishing.

Self Love Creativity Driving Rules cont’d:

 

6.Stay in tune with your intuition (gut feelings) as you never know when or how your creative moment is supposed to happen or HOW it is to evolve. It is not your job to know when or how but when summoned to create, to do it to the bet of your ability. Remember that nothing is ever a failure as the Divine Spirit sees all attempts at creativity as successes in their own right. If your creative idea seems overwhelming, break it down into small steps and “turtle your way to the finish. Do not to rush, go at the speed you feel in your gut, as that is the natural speed you are to create at. Let your self love guide you in the direction you need to head.

 

7.Rely on your support system. Be choosy whom you tell of your creative journey. Imagine your circle of people holding your self love safety net as you jump from a fiery inferno. If one person has lost his/her support (grip) on that net, you will crash to the ground. Do not let naysayers into your circle. When you come across one, consider their nay-saying as encouragement ONLY, but never as a foundation for your creative achievements. One of the best techniques for an artist to use is to stand next to a person who is admiring your piece – be it writing or painting or whatever. List to their words. Look at the piece as they see it. Take what you need from their critique and praises and leave with them with those thoughts and word that don’t resonate with your creative soul. Those opinions and words are all gifts whether you agree with them or not. They are of great value to the speaker for he/she would not have shared them if they were not, but only you can choose what to take as gifts and what to leave behind.

 

8.Michael Angelo believed that the sculptures he created were already inside the stone. He believed was chosen to chisel each masterpiece out for others to see. You were hand picked by the Creator to create what you do. Do not question the outcome or the “why you?” Have faith that you were hand picked for a reason. allow your self love to have FAITH – Finally Allow It To Happen.

 

9.On the days that you find yourself without a creative thought in sight, do not despair – do not look upon the void as a blockage, or “writer’s block.” Look upon this as a chance to discover something new. This is a chance to do something you have been meaning to do but just never found the time before to experience it. It might be an activity you have always wanted to start or maybe resume after a long absence. It maybe a special someone you have lost touch with. No matter what it is, the Devine Spirit has given you the time to achieve it. The Creator has nothing for you to share with the world, so take this time to seek out other inspirations.

 

Need some self love creativity ideas?

-Listen to music- try a new genre, one you really never thought you’d be caught dead listening to.

-Take photographs – no matter how bad you think you are behind a lens you would be surprised what you might develop.

-Find someone you haven’t written to for a while or a “Thank You” note you have been too busy to write, AND write!

-Take out your sewing basket and sew on all those buttons you have been meaning to find homes for. You might also discover a whole new wardrobe with all the clothes that have been sitting in the mending bin for a few fashion collections gone by.

-Take up knitting, crochet or needlepoint. If NFL’ers can needlepoint so can you!

-Try cooking a new dish or experiment with an old one and try to create it into a different cultural dish. Again use your imagination – that’s your only limit.

-Paint a room. Spruce up an area that s looking drab and dull. Let your inhibitions out on the color wheel. If you don’t like the finished project you can always repaint – or wallpaper over it!

-Rearrange your kitchen or a closet. Throw out what you don’t need – or recycle if you wish to be politically correct. Create space for the abundance that is ever awaiting you. Just think of all the treasures you have misplaced that are waiting to be found and put in their rightful place.

-Play with the app store on your computer, iPad of iPhone. You never know what ideas you might discover inspired off another’s creativity.

-Sort your bookshelves and see what you can donate to the hospital or thrift shop. It would be a shame to rob those less fortunate the ability to read what you have been so gifted with. Sharing and giving is the start to receiving. Life is beautiful that way. Words are a gift to shared and passed along.

 

Okay, now it’s your turn to design some self love creativity activites.

 

One final “rule” to mention…

10.Affirmation for a safe journey along the Creative Highway:

 

“Dear Great Creator, I will make sure my creations are to the best of my innate ability to honor you in choosing me to channel your creative desires. In turn, I have great self love and faith in the fact that the amount you send me is no more and no less the amount I am capable of producing with my creative love. I will not cast judgment on my work but instead celebrate each achievement, as my very best not matter what others think. Thank you for your trust in me.”

 

Start creating today!!

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Self Love Rules For Crafting Your Creativity – Part One

Channeling Your Creativity Highway – building a greater sense of self love.

 

self loveTraveling along  your self love journey you are inundated with ideas, like bugs on a windshield  to be created into the physical medium of your choice. Everyone was born to create, we are creative beings. If you have ever looked at someone’s work of art and said to yourself, “I could never do that,” you are wrong.  All you have to do is open your mind and leave self-judgment at the door. Show up to any creative medium;paper, canvass, pottery wheel or what ever you desire and let the ideas flow through you and create.

Below are some handy rules for you to follow to help get you on your way to creating exactly what you wish to. Nurture your self love with giving your creativity a place to flourish.

 

 

 

 

 

Self Love Driving Rules For Discovering Your Creativity:

 

1.You are the vessel for the Divine Source’s creativity to come to life. Create a comfortable, loving and happy “creation” space – look upon this as you would choosing the perfect car you would like to drive in for a long trip. Enrich your self love and deep breathe 5 times allowing the creative light to energize your soul from the top of your head down through your limbs towards your feet. With you feet plated firmly on the grown visualize this creative energy flowing in and down with each breath in, and pushing down and through your feet into mother earth with each breath out. After feeling firmly grounded, take any medium you desire and place upon it the creative ideas that are sent through you.

 

2.Be open to the ideas that travel through you. Cast no judgment, for the creative ideas that channel through you are not your to own but are given to you to foster and nurture to the best of your ability. The Creator has chosen you because your self love qualities are perfect for the mission of “creating” here on earth. Be proud and celebrate everything you create – each creation has its own purpose even if you can’t see that purpose immediately.

 

3. In order to become the perfect well of the vast ideas that you are meant to create with, you must nurture your self love. Exercise the mind, body and soul. Meditate, visualize, commune with nature, surround yourself with creative people, create an environment that brings comfort, eat well, sleep lots and breathe often. Keep your spirituality open to receive all messages and energy you are meant to receive. Try new activities, hobbies, and classes that sound fun. Write down things that you would never do but if you could, you might like to try because they seem like so much fun. Discover if there are any skills you would still like to master while you can. Reflect on your child hood, or watching children at whimsical play. Be silly for five minutes and explore all you could to challenge yourself to do in the make-believe “silly” world.

 

4.Remember there are 525,600 minutes in a year. Each minute is an achievement on its own no matter what was accomplished in this time frame. Create conscious small steps to achieving each self love goal. Think of them a “turtle’ steps instead of “baby’ steps. With baby steps you run the risk of wanting to run before you walk. Sometimes your little steps get caught up unto one another and you stumble before you really get going. The turtle travels slow and steady. You have to stick your neck out in order to navigate your journey but you finally get to your goal with strength and confidence.

 

5.ASK for what you want in your creative sessions. Accept no boundaries to enriching your creative self love. Accept no negative self-talk. Accept no judgments whether from yourself or others. Imagine no money issue, no gender issues, age issues and no political/religious issues. Your imagination is your only limit – can you imagine? Nothing is too grand for the Universe to entertain, but the laws of attraction cannot work without you invoking the “ASK.” Let your authentic voice be heard. Feel the blush rise up your throat and shine on your cheeks, for now you know you are stretching yourself to grow.  Develop concrete intentions for your creativity and affirm that you will do the best job you can do with the ideas that come to you. You don’t need to know the “how” they come, just that when it is right you will do your creating the best way possible. You will give each idea the best quality that you are qualified to give. Pledge allegiance to your creative soul for it is a master all on its own whether anyone else recognizes it or not. Don’t worry about knowing what that quality is – just promise to give it and it will form naturally.

 

Part Two of “The Self Love Creative Driving Rues” to be posted on May 9th 2012

 

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Allow Your Self Love To Soar – Break The Chains of Abuse

Domestic Violence Awareness Self Love Poem by Mikka Stanley Yonker

 

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“Broken Butterfly”

Today, I’m breaking the chains,
You bound to my heart,
No more pain, no more suffering,
It’s time we finally part.
You cannot hurt me now,
No more of your abuse,
I have nothing left to give you,
It’s been given and I was used.
You used me for my caring ways,
But yet, you never really cared.
You used me for my body too,
Yet it was my soul you really bared.
Don’t ask me for a second chance,
Cause the healing has begun,
No more bruises, no more tears,
I’m singing my freedom song.
Don’t try to call me, don’t even text,
I’ll ignore them till the end,
I’m stepping back into the world,
I’ll be my own best friend.
Do not say “I love you,”
Don’t try to suck me in,
I don’t believe a word you say,
You never were my friend.
There is nothing I did to deserve this pain,
I gave my love with no return,
My duty to “honor and obey” you,
Was not a ticket for you to burn.
Now I’ll go into the world,
And spread my wings and fly,
I’ve been trapped too long in your cocoon,
A broken Butterfly…..

Poem Courtesy @Mikka Stanley Yonker

Too many of us – and I am one of you- have allowed the power of another to crush us. To place our self love in a cage thinking we are protecting it when really all we were doing was confining it – now easier found as a target to abuse. I rode that gerbil wheel of apologies for many years only to find that no matter how much I worked at pleasing my partner the more bruises I could count on my body the next morning. It is not easy to step off the agonizing wheel because you land on a conveyer belt of more pain. Abuse is control with the switch taped “on.”

No matter how much you try to be “good” the worse the attack is and your self love evaporates with each strike, word or push. Apologies are flowers that bloom for a very short while – just long enough to trick you into sympathy and victimization. One smell and they turn black with venom. Still today, I look at a bouquet in a slightly different light.

Empathy never has a chance to run the wheel with you because “victims” never hold hands with the strength of empathy. Once you finally fall so hard that you decide to jump out of the madhouse of abuse, you can see clearly that the reasons for the abusers pain does not rest on your shoulders but on his. Your self love does not have to wear his garbage. Now empathy can hold your hand and scare the “victim” out of the picture.

This poem hit me in the solar plexus of my self love and I am so happy to have stumbled upon it. It sings from my heart and I want every person who has had a ticket to ride on the abuse bus to have the courage tear that ticket in half and throw the pieces to the wind. You are not alone, and you will know when it is time to break from your cocoon and fly – no more a broken butterfly.

Thank you Mikka Stanley Yonker for spreading your wings and sharing your heart.

Please share so we can spread our love.

 

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Moxie Fiction To Inspire Your Creative Soul

 

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Boundaries Build Self Love

Moximized Monday Self Love Topic:

Today’s Techno age can make life very hectic without Boundaries to Build your self love. ~ Jane

 

I am so overwhelmed by the techno age today. Instead of life becoming easier, I find it more complicated and trying to keep up with life being so lugged in is just exhausting me. I think the super woman cape of the 80’s is rearing its ugly head. HELP me! – Jane

 

 

Hi Jane, one word – BOUNDARIES. They will help you with today’s fast pace. Replace the super woman cape of the 80’s with a courageous shield of BOUNDARIES. Rip that “S” off your cape and stitch on a very small word with a big message – NO. Give everyone the message that you say NO to giving something, behaving in a certain way or being treated inappropriately.  Saying NO protects you wholly – mind, body and soul.

 

Boundaries reflect you’re your needs and values and demonstrates them to others. They also allow your limits be communicated. Boundaries will reflect the respect of all parties involved in a clear firm non-aggressive manner. This shield is one of the most empowering “articles of clothing” that we can wear on a daily basis.

 

Jane do not mistake boundaries for selfishness as this is not the case. You are nurturing your self love with boundaries and that builds a stronger you. Once you commit to sticking within your boundaries you will be surprised on the reaction from those around you. Anyone who doesn’t wish to honor your limits are not worth your time. Bless them and wish them well. Give love to them and allow them to move along in their own journey.

 

In today’s techno age, boundaries are very important. We are so much more accessible than we have ever been in the past. With the advancement of modern technology and all the assets to an “easier” life that it can afford us, we pay the price of no privacy. Life can seem brutally hard just as it did centuries ago. It is all relevant even though it doesn’t always appear that way.

 

So lets concentrate on some self love boundary techniques.

 

Jane, do you experience separation symptoms of stress, anxiety, restlessness and agitation when you are not near a technical device like a computer, cell phone or android? This has become the addiction of the modern age. But you can wean yourself and in turn show others that your time is valuable and you will decide when it is to be used for work and when it is to be reserved for rest and play.

 

Sit down and look at your weekly calendar. Start setting appointments with yourself. You have the respect and courtesy to do this with your work associates, and clients. So now place you first and start booking.

 

1.Plan out your email reading and responding time –  look at emails from when to when?  Be stringent. You don’t have to check your email 24/7. Give your “time” a break. Based off your work conditions, set a certain time to review and answer emails. Put a responder on your email which states that you will be receiving and answering your emails between the times you have set for yourself and give yourself another break by letting people know you will try to get back to them within 24 to 48 hours.

 

I can hear your reaction now. Your ego is going wild telling you that you can’t do that. Not true. Ignore your ego, put your self love first. You can put whatever boundaries you want on your time – the question is are you ready to do that? There will be some consequences, but when you put “you” foremost in your day, that is all that counts in the end ad you can live with whatever you are presented with.

 

2.Plan Social Media “self love play” time – think of yourself as your own mother and decide for you how much time you will allow yourself to play on Facebook or Pinterest. Then decide when and how often a week you will allow those hours. The same can be done with Twitter and any other social media outlet you are connected with.

 

Make sure you utilize one of the many social media managing programs that are available. Set your tweets and FB posts ahead of schedule so you don’t have to be tied to technology on a minute-to-minute basis. Organizing and managing your valuable time in a day/week/month nurtures your self love.

 

3.Give your self love a techno day off – unplug, fully. I mean it. Pick a day and stay COMPLETLEY away from technology. That includes cell phone also. Just utilize this time to live and do what you love to do. Walk in nature, exercise, and go for a run. Practice a hobby, read, rest and play. Just live in the moment and forget anything or anyone that requires your time. Everything can wait 24 hours. Don’t try to find excuse for not taking a break from the harassment of this wonderful but trying techno age. You are only hurting you in the process if you do find excuses.

 

As you can see I use the word “time” a great deal and that is because “time” today is a big deal. With more accessibility to our “time” it is even more important to value and utilize our “time” ONLY the way we wish to utilize it.

 

The main thing to do, Jane, is to let people know you are available but only when you say you are available. If your boss doesn’t like this “new” you then maybe its time to look at where you are going in your career and start looking into ways to get where you want to go at the speed you wish to travel all within respected boundaries. You have choices in life and the only thing you can change is “you.” So start by being kind to yourself and choose to create healthy boundaries. Be kind to your self love and hold true to those boundaries as you would cherished memories.

 

“The same feel-good hormone which attracts us to sex and food is aroused in response to the ‘ding’ of a text arriving!” ~ Brain specialist Nora Volkow

 

 

For our readers – please share the boundaries that you have created to bring calm and balance to your life in this new age. I would love to pass them on. We can all help one another to live a joyous life during these fast paced times.

 

 

 

 

PS Jane: the key to boundaries working are not the boundaries themselves but the INTENTION and dedication you have to nurturing your self love by sticking tight to those boundaries!

 

You might also like to read this post on self love.

 

Other tools for enriching your self-love:

 

Moxie Reading Collection

 

Journal, Workbooks and Daily Inspirationals

 

Moxie Fiction To Inspire Your Creative Soul

 

Moxie Inspirational Video Collection

 

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How To Create Your Self Love Nurture Support System

Mother’s Day Is A Reminder to Nurture Your Self Love.

 

self loveWe forget, as women, to nurture our self love. We spend all our time looking after those around us – children, partners, bosses, colleagues, friends, family, parents – and we forget to take time for ourselves. Mother’s Day is a perfect time to give back to ourselves all that we splurge on those around us.

Without nurturing our self love our self-worth is squashed. We attach your worth to material things outside of your inner being.We forget that we are deserved of the love we bestow on others. We are like a pitcher and when that pitcher is not continually filled with self-love then we cannot continue to pour love into our relationships with ourselves or with others.

If self-nurturing seems like a foreign thought to you, then consider the rules of the oxygen mask in an airplane cabin. You are in instructed to place an oxygen mask on your own mouth before you continue to aid another passenger when there is a cabin pressure emergency. Follow this rule in life. Feed your self love the oxygen of nurturing.

Take a few minutes and write in your journal answering the following questions (in great detail) directed at nurturing your self love:

List when and what makes you more relaxed?

List when and what makes you more creative?

List what would your perfect workday be like? Describe in detail.

List what would your perfect day off be like? Describe in detail.

List what activities bring joy into my life everyday?

These answers will form the basis of your Nurture Support System. This system will be a list of things you can do for yourself when self-doubt or feelings of unworthiness creep into your mind. Referring to your support system when your self-esteem is dipping a bit will remind you of what is important to “You.” Each item will give you the nurture you deserve. They are things that will bring you happiness.

Focusing on things that you love to do will get you in touch with your inner being and that brings balance in your life. When circumstances come into your life that have negative energy, redirect your energy on the things that bring you joy and fulfill your happiness level will form a distraction and that helps you with maintaining balance.

Once you create your Nurture Support System keep it with you at all times as you would a good friend. Get into the practice of taking one item on your list and delivering it to yourself once a day. This will keep positive energy wrapped around you at all times.

So this Mother’s Day, go out and buy yourself a bouquet of your favorite flowers because you are worth every penny. Then every time you look at your fragrant prize remember that you have to give back to “You” in order to be all you want to be for others.

 

You might also like this post on self love.

 

Other tools for enriching your self-love:

 

Moxie Reading Collection

 

Journal, Workbooks and Daily Inspirationals

 

Moxie Fiction To Inspire Your Creative Soul

 

Moxie Inspirational Video Collection

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