Help Me From Myself – My Self Esteem Is Dying

Moximized Monday Self Esteem Topic:

Negative Self-Talk Can Destroy Your Self Esteem ~ Sally B


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I am having a bad morning. Got on scales and now doing a lot of self-hate talk. Need some encouraging self-love quotes or something for my self esteem? I mean I am doing some serious self destructive self hate talk to my self esteem. I m under a lot of stress starting with facing the WEIGHT SCALE each week in Weight Watchers.. My grandmother has been diagnosed with lung cancer at the ripe age of 97. When I get this stressed I take things out on me and my self esteem jumps into the river. I am the only one that listen’s to myself. Moximize me please. Help me learn to love me just the way I am, flaws & all. Do they dispense self esteem orally? ~Sincerely blue, Sally B



Good Morning Sally B,

Why do you engage in bad self-talk when you get on the scale and attack your self esteem instead of loving you?

Do you not like being over weight or under weight?

Why, is it for health reasons? Or Lack of self esteem to accept you as the perfect person you are because of others opinions?

Tell me what your self-talk consists of and then we can refocus on the negative and turn them into positives.

Many of the things we say to ourselves are based not on how we really feel from our perspective but how we feel based off of the environmental influence of our self esteem (in which we were raised and are living in.) After all who says we are “FAT” – by whose measure? Societies? Who are they to tell us what fat is. Who are they to define skinny or perfect body type? Our ego strives to be labeled so she can strut around and show off who she is by the level of what others think of her. Your inner being understands you are perfect and wishes to have the louder voice so she can get you to accept the way you are and nurture you instead of attacking your self esteem with judgments and criticisms. Only for health reasons, should you concern yourself about your body density.

Let’s soothe your self esteem and wrap her in love and happiness. Let’s do some mirror work.

During your shower while you wash each part of your body immerse yourself in the steam and enjoy being in the moment. Use very sense to enjoy the glorious event of washing your beautiful body. Your body is developed for a functioning reason so should be worshiped. Each part needs to be nurtured with love, soap and a gentle cleansing. As you luxuriate bathing your body, bathe your self esteem.

“I love my body and my body loves me.”

“My life is so blessed.”

“I am showered with good thoughts all day long.”

Once out of the shower, dry gently your temple off and stand frontal in a mirror with no clothes on. Look loving into the mirror onto your face. SMILE and keep smiling. -this might be hard but do it. As you smile at yourself look over your whole body in the mirror. Tell yourself how beautiful you are.

“Good Morning Sally B, I love you, I really, really love you.”

When your ego interrupts and wants to point out your flaws, acknowledge its presence and then ask it to go away. It is your time with yourself right now. She can find something else to do with her mischievous attitude. It’s your self esteem turn to shine.

“You are wonderful you have a beautiful smile.”


Then show gratitude for your body one inch at a time. Your self esteem blooms with gratitude.


Thank you forehead for housing my brain. For giving it a home so I can continue to learn all the things I have to learn in this life…

Thank you eyes for allowing me to see my children born, the flowers in my garden, the sun setting, my partner’s smile…

Thank you wrinkles for showing me my life. Each of you tells a story of my journey, showing all the laughter I have experienced in my life and all the room for more laughter…

Thank you mouth for allowing me to taste all the gastronomic delights, to smile at me daughter, to stick my tongue out in life or to lick ice cream….

Thank you chin for giving me the ability to hold you high when times are tough, for resting it on my arms when I am weary….


Sally B, continue down and find all the wonderful, fantastic reasons why each part is important to your life so far.


Be open to positives and leave no room for judgments. If you have weight on your hips realize that that weight helped you to give birth or has helped you through trying times cause it is there to protect your hips that have allowed your legs to help you move forward in your journey.


Now move down and finish showing gratitude to every part of your glorious body.


Continue with this shower and mirror routine this for 7 days. Be faithful to yourself and consciously find everything good about you. They are there and you can find them if you just look. Your self-esteem is screaming right now for attentions so give her lots and really learn to enjoy the feelings that arise out of this process.


Do you journal? Please start now if you haven’t already. (How To Journal Workbook) Write down your feelings and all you have discovered while doing this exercise for the next week. You will be amazed at how much you discover.


Try this affirmation form Dr. Wayne Dyer , author of Being In Balance ~ “I’m headed in the right direction of perfect health. I have no shame or guilt about my behavior or myself.  If I choose to be a couch potato, then I’ll be a healthy, trim beautiful couch potato. I love my body. I’m going to take care of it because it houses the sacred being that I am.”


Get the book – Being In Balance: 9 Principles for Creating Habits To Match Your Desire by Dr. Dyer and it will help you see how you are to turn your thoughts around to bring balance into your life. It’s a short read but powerful.

Here are some self esteem quotes:

We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light. ~Mary Dunbar

When people believe in themselves they have the first secret of success. ~Norman Vincent Peale

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. ~Eleanor Roosevelt

Don’t you dare, for one more second, surround yourself with people who are not aware of the greatness that you are. ~Jo Blackwell-Preston

There is a Divine and Infinite potential within every soul, an intimate access to the mind of God and the passion of the Universe ~K. Allen Kay

Yours is the energy that makes your world. There are no limitations to the self except those you believe in.~Jane Roberts

Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measured by your belief in yourself. ~Robert Collier

I wish I could show you, When you are lonely or in darkness, The astonishing light of your own being. ~Hafiz

To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. ~Thich Nhat Hanh

Wouldn’t it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew it would make you happy? This is precisely how much life loves you and wants you to nurture yourself. The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth. Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfillment from inside out. ~Alan Cohen

If you’re wearing a disguise for too long, it will be difficult for the mirror to recognize you. At the end of the day I hope you become the person they didn’t expect you to be. Be proud to wear you. ~Dodinsky

You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are. ~Yogi Bhajan

Tell me how a person judges his or her self-esteem and I will tell you how that person operates at work, in love, in sex, in parenting, in every important aspect of existence – and how high he or she is likely to rise. The reputation you have with yourself – your self-esteem – is the single most important factor for a fulfilling life. ~Nathaniel Branden

Having a low opinion of yourself is not “modesty”. It’s self-destruction. Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not “egotism”. It’s a necessary precondition to happiness and success. ~Bobbe Sommer

Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection. ~Buddha

Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves.~Nathaniel Branden

People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within. ~Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Appreciation and self-love are the most important tools that you could ever nurture. Appreciation of others, and the appreciation of yourself is the closest vibrational match to your Source Energy of anything that we’ve ever witnessed anywhere in the Universe. ~Abraham

Everybody is unique. Compare not yourself with anybody else lest you spoil God’s curriculum.~Rabbi Israel ben Eliezer

All things splendid have been achieved by those who dared believe that something inside them was superior to circumstance. ~Bruce Barton

By being yourself, you put something wonderful in the world that was not there before. ~Edwin Elliot

Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are. ~Malcolm S. Forbes

Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life believing that it is stupid. ~Albert Einstein


Body Image Self Esteem Quotes:


Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart.~ Kahlil Gibran


Everybody is unique. Compare not yourself with anybody else lest you spoil God’s curriculum.~ Baal Shem Tov


Revere the body and care for it, for it is a temple.~ Swami Muktananda


If anything is sacred, the human body is sacred. ~ Walt Whitman


Our body is…a vehicle for awakening. Treat it with care. ~ Buddha

When you consider yourself valuable you will take care of yourself in all ways that are necessary. ~ M. Scott Peck


Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.~Confucius


Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. ~ Lucille Ball


Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be, because sooner or later, if you are posing, you will forget the pose, and then where are you? ~ Fanny Brice


Love yourself unconditionally, just as you love those closest to you despite their faults. ~ Les Brown


You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. ~ Buddha


I’d rather be able to face myself in the bathroom mirror than be rich and famous. ~  Ani DiFranco


Sally B, I know what I am suggesting you do you will have resistance to it, but try to create a beautiful habit of loving you and your physical realm everyday. Pay attention to your self-talk and write it down then rewrite it in the positive manner. Once re-written say it over and over again until it just rolls of your tongue. Gab a mirror and say your new positive affirmations to you with smiles and glints in your precious eyes. Really talk to yourself a you would nurturing a best friend. Look after you because she is really the only person who will be solidly by your side for the rest of your life..


Sally B, you have a it on your plate right now, so you have to put you first. Be good to you, nurture your self esteem. Make the scale your friend. Do not look at it as a reflection of who you are as a person. You are perfect just as you are – it is the labels and opinions that cause yours elf-esteem to dip below the healthy line. When you approach the scale call it “my friend.” It is your friend. The only thing it is doing is telling you a weight. A scale has no judgment it is just a scientific devise. So call it your friend and bless it for being able to register that you are alive and have a beautiful day ahead of you. Don’t look at the numbers shown as a level of who you are. They are just numbers and cannot hurt you. You choose to let the numbers affect your day. Accept the weight and thank your friend for telling you that you exist and that you are perfect at just that weight. Ask the numbers what they mean to you – not to WW or others around you and then create steps to getting what your intuition tells you. For example, cut back sugar in your coffee by 1 teaspoon. Do that everyday till you can remove sugar completely. It’s a small step but BIG gain. Even when your ego wants you to believe that you are taking three steps forward and two steps back, you are winning because that is still one step farther ahead that you were before you tried.


If you would like, try my new book, Girl Get Your Fight Back. Elizabeth has designed a section, Weight Loss Get Your Flight Plan Back!


New Affirmation: ” I am alright. All is well. Everything is working out for my highest good. Out of this situation only good will come. I am safe!”



If there is anything else you need, Sally B just write.


To our readers – please share any valuable self-esteem tips you have used in battling your weight. We can all learn from each other and spreading our love will heal many.


You might also like to read this post on self esteem.


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